We all want to do better in life. That's a given for everybody on this earth. But along the way as we move up there's always going to be some setbacks. A lot of falls happen when you climb the mountain of success. Like the best of us we've all had our times of feeling like nobody cares.
There's a lot of people out there on their little island all alone and feeling stranded in their problems. Personally I've felt like an outsider a major portion of my life and never decided on the opportunity to reach out to another only because of the fear of not feeling welcomed. Only after getting past my own fears did I come to realize that not everyone will accept me as I am and for the ones that don't it only serves me in a way to grow and become stronger.
Dreamers Dream But Also Do
Plenty of people I know who have big dreams or an abundance of talent have talked to me about their goals and ambitions. But as time passes I never see their goals come to life beyond the words coming out of their mouths. Only to hear excuses like they don't know enough or don't have contact with the right person. In the end we all know if we look inside and are truthful with ourselves that we can be or do anything we wish.
It's the lies we tell ourselves that prevents us from becoming our ideal selves. Change from our routine can be a scary thing and most of us love to stay in our comfort zones. It's inherent in all of us. But what makes us great, what makes us stronger than what we were one moment ago is the willingness to put ourselves out there and take the risk.
What ever I deem myself incapable of and what I think I don't have the skills in I make the conscious effort to learn and understand. The more i know and figure out in this world we're living in the more I can be a power for positive change in the world. Now that doesn't mean you have to save the world but standing your ground and committing to your growth as a human requires you first and for most to be secure in yourself.
That way when that potential client says no or whoever you contact flat out ignores you, know that it's not personal. You can't control other’s actions. Nor directly change the thoughts and opinions of others. But one thing you do have is total control of your own thoughts and actions. Including the way you take the obstacles that come in your life.
Shake It off!
So what happens when your rejected time and time again? Well it simply means that your doing something that needs adjustment. Every time I get rejected it hurts. Trust me it always does. No matter how much I try to shake it off. With experience I've come to learn that it opens the opportunity for change in my life. Ultimately I'm thankful for it. Because without the pull back I would never have the conviction to push forward even harder.
It's important to try anyway even when you don't think your ready for what's coming your way. A lot of times you might surprise yourself with the results you make. I always approach unfamiliar territory with the attitude of a student. Willing to take the lessons of the experience and increase my wisdom.
Then again with all the pushing forward and going for it anyway attitude there are some strategies which you can adopt to make the ride a little more smoother along the way.
First of all make sure who your contacting is someone you've done your homework on. Get to know their company. Find something about them that you can relate to personally.
Come with an approach that your willing to give more than what your asking. Most of the time people like to be around givers. The world is full of takers and believe me if your in that category or not even aware of it, take a long look of yourself and shift your way of acting and see how much things will drastically change. Being a giver instead of a taker and show that you understand the value you can offer to another person.
Show Your Face!
Getting to know someone face to face will greatly increase your odds of being memorable. Increase your odds of success by going beyond today's age of emails and Facebook messages. As stated above if you've done your homework on your contact then you should have plenty to talk about with your potential friend. Make it all about them and ask how your talent and skills could help them further their own goals. Gaining trust involves you being a good listener and understanding the needs of others.
You always have the power to spin things in a positive way. The more rejections you have in your life the more you'll be better equipped to shake off the negative self talk and go for it anyway. No need to take it personal. Most people are having the same experiences on a daily basis. So put yourself out there and keep knocking on those doors!
Chris from MKMI Photo